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He was a young promising techie, all 24-year-old, coming from the land known for sugarcane growers, Mandya. He had passed his Mechanical engineering in distinction. It was not difficult for him to land in a good position in any company, but all he wanted was a job in Tata Consultancy Services. Reason was simple: the girl with whom he was in love was working in TCS. A girl who was also from the same place was selected to the company through campus interview.

Why am I telling all this? There’s a reason and you all should know it. Let me just go to the flashback before coming to the main point. Deepak Marigowda was very intelligent and passed in distinction throughout his studies. It was his percentage in Class 12 which made his parents to enroll him for Mechanical Engineering. He was a promising student, but away from home, life in the hostel and you can imagine the rest…

In his second year of his course, he met Pallavi from Nagamangala, also from his own district. She was an IT student there. It didn’t take much time for their friendship to end in love. Everything looks fine when there are no responsibilities and life looks colourful during college days. Their love went stronger and stronger by each passing year and she was selected for TCS in the campus interview. He was very smart in his studies and his friends knew how he even helped his girl in her studies too.

After their studies, the girl joined TCS and he too soon followed her, because she meant everything to him and he didn’t want to lose her at any cost. After a month’s training in Bangalore both were posted to the Chennai branch. Their love continued without any hindrance until the girl’s parents came up with wedding proposals. Everything was normal and sweet till then and suddenly, the girl changed her mind. She was ready to give up her love and guy for the sake of her parents. Coming from a Brahmin family, she feared that her parents might face problems in the future if she gets married to a guy who was a Gowda. She even started avoiding him telling that if she marries a Gowda guy, it would be a problem for her younger sister to get married in future.

Things began to worsen very soon. The love of five plus years started taking a backseat and honour of her family became an issue. The guy told about his affair to his family members. Though they initially resisted his wish, they agreed to visit the girl’s parents to seek her hand for their son. Father of the girl insulted the parents of the guy and didn’t allow them to enter the house as they belonged to a different caste. The girl kept silent and the guy’s family was humiliated.

The pain of rejection and humiliation to his family was little too much for the guy, he even thought of ending his life, but his friends’ timely intervention just saved his life and he was immediately shifted to a hospital, where he was admitted for three days. After his discharge, he continuously called the girl, her father, her uncle and other family members telling how much she mattered for him. He cried and begged for her hand, he told them if he doesn’t marry her he would end his life, but no, no words made the girl or her parents to change their mind.

He often wondered if it was his mistake not to go ahead with a registered marriage when the girl had told him once in Chennai, as they were from different castes. He wanted the nod from both the families and had refused her idea. But god alone knows why things change and all are puppets in his hands!

He had saved all her letters, SMSes, cards and had recorded some of their conversations on his cellphone. He might have not imagined that they would come in public later… On May 22, 2011 he decided to put an end to all this… How? By committing suicide and leaving behind a series of questions in his death note… Sample a few of them:

  1. Why two laws — one for girls and another for boys??!!
  2. If a guy cheats a girl, the whole media gangs up against him, NGOs sit dharna in front of the guy’s house, they book cheating case against him, and make sure that somehow he marries her and gets justice.
  3. If a girl cheats a boy, why bury the issue?
  4. Didn’t she know that I was a Gowda when she fell in love?
  5. Who will give justice to me and my family?

He also told that he couldn’t imagine his life without her. He was not ready to marry someone else in the future as he couldn’t imagine anybody else in her place. All he could say was he was cheated by her and she was responsible for his death.

Now, what next? Will media fight to get him justice? Will NGOs get time to sit dharna in front of the girl’s house? Will police book cheating case against her and make sure that Deepak’s soul and his family gets justice? Will this also be buried like other cases? Who will answer Deepak’s questions??!!

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It was a sudden visit, not pre-planned unlike my other trips. After Vij left, I wanted a break, a break to refresh my mind and soul. I wanted to be away from Bangalore and all familiar faces. Suddenly, Taraka’s face came in front of my eyes and I just called her to ask if I could visit her. When she confirmed that she would take leave and take me around, I just took four days leave to visit her in Hyderabad.

I was eager to meet her after so many years. Yeah, after four years. Four years ago, she had come to Bangalore and visited us.

Unfortunately, the train reached at 12 noon instead of 9.40 am on Saturday and Taraka was waiting with jeeju to receive me at Kacheguda railway station.

Oh, it was a pleasant meeting, two friends, rather I would love to call her my elder sister, after four years.

I met Taraka for the first time in 2002. She was my roommate in the PG. Old memories gushed in, and we kept on chatting about the days we spent in the PG. Our discussions ranged from family, work, politics, society, religion, agriculture, economy, what not, almost anything and everything. Though it sounds strange to note that two friends discuss such things when meeting after so many years, to be frank, that’s how our friendship started and became stronger. We used to discuss so many issues, current affairs and political issues in the PG and it continued even after she left Bangalore. The discussions were not useless and meant for time pass. They helped me to improve my GK, as I was pursuing civil services.

From being a student I have grown up to be a working woman. I admired her spirit and strength and learnt so many things during my stay with her for 8-9 months. Today, I salute her for being so strong, for supporting her family, being a successful working woman and mother of two lovely kids.

From being a student I have grown up to be a working woman. I admired her spirit and strength and learnt so many things during my stay with her for 8-9 months. Today, I salute her for being so strong, for supporting her family, being a successful working woman and mother of two lovely kids.

Our friendship has become stronger by the passing years (touchwood) and I hope it continues to be much more stronger in the coming years.

When Vij returned from his native after taking some ayurvedic medicine for his kidney stones, he told me that a tantri has asked him to do noorum palum puja at a Naga temple to wards of evil effects. SO he was on a search of Naga temple in and around Bangalore to perform the puja on Ashlesha Day, which fell on 9th this month. I just forgot about it and he was more than angry for not helping him out to find a temple.

Then, I started googling and got to know about Mukti Naga temple near Ramohalli. Yeah, the same place which has the Big Banyan tree. Got the phone number and called to confirm if there would be any puja on Monday and details about booking for a puja. The woman who picked the call confirmed about the puja and told that we were supposed to reach the temple by 9 am and men were supposed to wear a mundu and shalya.

We left home at 8 am and reached the temple at 9 am. It took nearly one hour, as the traffic was too heavy and the road connecting the temple from Ramohalli was very bad with no proper asphaltation. It was literally a bumpy ride on a bumpy metal road. The construction work of the temple is yet to complete.

Proposed temple complex

Proposed temple complex

We asked the pujari if they would do noorum palum puja and he said that they were conducting an Ashlesha puja on that day and it is done to ward off evil effects and seek the blessings of Lord Nagaraja, the snake deity. We paid Rs 1,100 for the Ashlesha Puja, which started at 9.50 am and lasted for three hours.

Price list

Price list

Before sitting for the puja, we visited the Karya Siddhi Vinayaka Temple and Mukti Naga temple.

Karya Siddhi Vinayaka Temple

Karya Siddhi Vinayaka Temple

The temple has the biggest Naga idol in Karnataka and is 16 ft tall!

Side view of Mukti Naga Temple

Side view of Mukti Naga Temple

Then, we went to another small temple where there was a small Naga idol and an anthill smeared with vermilion and kumkum. The temple was locked and devotees were praying from outside. Just near that, there were few Naga idols which were installed by devotees to ward off evil effects and seeking good blessings from the Snake Lord.

To our amusement, a few devotees were piling up small stones in front of the temple and when we enquired one of them said that those who have wished for a house build a stone block in front of the temple and ask the Lord to bless them with a house. Need not say that we too built a small house in front of the house seeking the blessings of the Lord…

Mukti Naga Temple

Mukti Naga Temple

The puja began at 9.50 am and there were seven people, including us for the puja. Men sat for the main puja and the families sat behind them. They performed Naga puja, Ashlesha Bali and Ganapati Homa to invoke the blessings of the serpent god. The room was filled with Sanskrit shlokas and chantings of mantras, reminding us of rishis and ashrams. Through out Vij had a difficult time, as he was not used to sit in Padmasan position and pujaris kept translating few things to him in English, like take a deep breath, wash your hand, offer flowers, offer prayers to your family deity and others.

After the puja there was lunch, which I liked and of course, Vij didn’t like. They gave us two coconuts kept for the puja and asked to prepare any sweet dish on five days except on Tuesday and Friday.

We were dead tired and still headed towards Big Banyan tree, as Vij had not seen it. He was curious to see the tree, as he had heard much about it.

When we are really free and want to spend time, we normally head towards any malls for window shopping. Whenever my hubby asks me to accompany him for window shopping, I no more feel bad about it, as compared to earlier days, the number of window shoppers has tremendously increased, thanks to the growth in consumerism and globalisation.

When observed closely, we realised that it is the middle class which is in the forefront of this silent movement, probably because their income allows them no room for luxury. Window shopping is all about resisting their temptations even when exposed to its full glare.

The growth of super markets and malls has nurtured a generation of window shoppers or shelf-shoppers. Upscale shopping centres in posh localities like Brigade Road, MG Road, Commercial Street and others have become a boon for the window shoppers in Bengaluru. No wonder, shops on these roads are specifically designed to promote window shopping.

Window shopping promotes expensive merchandise and goods. A mobile phone in the showcase with a price tag of Rs 1 lakh is wonderful to look at. Even if window shoppers have Rs 1 lakh, they will not spend it on the phone, as they know that purchasing it can put a big hole not only in their pockets, but they can also be at a risk of losing such an expensive phone. Moreover, the price of any electronic good keeps diminishing with its use. The resale value of it can also will be a deterant factor.

Window shopping is like an excursion which can be made more enjoyable, provided the companion also shares the mood. So head towards any shopping mall this weekend and enjoy window shopping.